Lists written down, assignments confirmed, shopping trips made – all was put into action like a general about to enter the battlefield, everything was perfectly and strategically planned. My mother’s Thanksgiving preparation swung into full gear. This was her holiday. She was 88 but her mind was sharp. “Susie”, she said to me just a year ago, “I got the yams and the cranberry sauce and the peas you love. You’ll make the Guacamole, the stuffing and the salad as usual…what kind of wine does Iche like again? I got all of the kids’ favorite appetizers and oh, I ordered the turkeys from Doheny Kosher, can you just confirm that they’ll be delivered by 2:00 p.m., sliced? You know how Michael gets impatient with me if I call him too much…” Those were some of the words uttered by my mother as Thanksgiving approached.
This year Thanksgiving is making me look at loss in the face. The dull ache somewhere between my stomach and my heart grows more intense as the day approaches. I feel adrift again without my guide…my mom. We’ve decided to have Thanksgiving at my mother and father’s house, where we’ve had it for 38 years. We will affirm life without denying the difficulty of loss, as our family comes together, because it’s what we all want. It will be so hard without my mom, but I know that we honor her memory by being together, a family united at the dining room table with the mirrored wall behind. One by one, we will each rise to say what we are thankful for. I just know mommy, we will all be thankful for being together, because that was the greatest value you imparted…time shared with those you love. We will affirm how thankful we all are for having had you in our lives.
May all of you have a beautiful Thanksgiving surrounded by those you love!
My heart goes out to you and your family. By having your Thanksgiving at the home where you celebrated for 38 years, you are reaffirming that your relationship to your mom is not severed, merely changed. It will be difficult yet fulfilling.
Thank you so much for the nice words.
We also miss Martha—Enjoy your family because they are the essence of life. Love, Lois
Thank you Lois, you are such a kind and thoughtful person.
We loved having Thanksgiving with you at your parents’ home 3 years ago, though it feels like yesterday. Your mother was such a bright and shining star and I feel your loss. It’s good that you will all be together at her home (and your dad’s, of course,)
We’ll be thinking about you!
Lots of love,
Thank you Rena, for the warm memories.
I remember you mom as the smart business woman. She loved the business world. Yet, she picked to host the holiday that epitomized family being together. Although she is surely missed by all of you, her legacy is continuing through all if you. We are all so thankful to have known her.
Thanks so much Estelle.
Susie, Gary and family,
May you each have the blessing of warm and loving memories of your beloved mother, who is only not with you physically, but lives on through each of you as you enrich and touch the people around you with the warmth that certainly came from her love.
Happy Thanksgiving my friends….
Cena & Yakov